Asking for HELP

There is an age old adage that says,

“Man makes plans, then God smiles”.

All of us have many wonderful plans for our lives, only to face a detour or two along the way.

I had married for the second time and my husband and I loved to travel. He retired in December 2004 only to die of lung cancer 18 months later. Neither one of us saw that one coming.

But, there are other challenges that might come your way. With medical intervention, people are living much longer than they used to. The net result is that you might find yourself being a caregiver to one degree or another.

I think of my former sister-in-law who is now handling all aspects of her husband’s care and trying to run a household. He is not dying but is suffering the ravages of time. She is a very proud woman who is bending under the weight of carrying for a husband who is slipping into the abyss called dementia. He forgets, he sleeps most the day, he then forgets which day it is, and etc.

If you know of someone in this situation, and we all do, find some time to check in on them. Maybe you could sit with their loved one while they go to the doctor or a movie or just to get a breath of fresh air.

If you are part of an outreach ministry at your church or club, consider reaching out to those who are shut in and are trying to manage a mountain of tasks.

Look around…it just might be you or your next door neighbor.

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About Beatrice Bailey

Beatrice Bailey was born and raised in Davenport, Iowa to a Baptist minister father and a mother who was a gospel recording artist. She has three sisters and one brother. She attended the University of Iowa and graduated with a BA in Psychology from California State University, Sacramento. Retired since 2004 from management positions with both the Xerox Corporation and the State of California, Bea now conducts customized seminars on “Budgeting for the Not So Rich and Famous”, “Putting the Puzzle Pieces Together…The Ultimate Balancing Act,” as well as interview techniques entitled, “Selling the Sizzle and Not the Steak.” In addition, she is an active member of St. Paul Baptist Church in Sacramento, CA, where she is an Adult Sunday School teacher. Bea has been a Head Feature Writer for Senior Magazine of Northern California. She also writes a monthly newspaper column entitled, “Uniquely Bea” Currently, she has authored a best-selling book, entitled, "Farewell, My Friend” and is conducting presentations and book signings throughout the United States and Mexico. "Radio Luz,” a Spanish Speaking Christian Radio Station, has interviewed her multiple times. Bea also was selected to be included in a book by The Author’s Show, as one of the "50 Outstanding Writers You Should Be Reading”. Bea has produced and hosted a new innovative television show, “A-Z with Bea”, which aired in November 2009 on RCCTV, Sacramento, CA. Bea is active at St. Paul Baptist Church and is an Adult Sunday school Teacher, and a Small Accountability Group Leader. She is a member of Kaiser’s Bio-Ethics Committee and on the Board of Advisors for the East Lawn Corporation. Recently, she has been asked to participate as a speaker with the Black Health Today national organization. To relax, Bea likes to work out at the gym, walk, knit, paint, sew, cook, garden, and read. Traveling within the United States, Mexico, Asia, the Caribbean, South America and Europe is one of Bea’s true passions. She has two adult children, one “bonus son”, five wonderful grandchildren and two great-grandchildren. She resides in Northern California.

One thought on “Asking for HELP

  1. Such a great reminder, Beatrice I especially like that you talk about helping caretakers and allowing them to maybe see a movie or “just get a breath of fresh air.” It seems as though people are often very willing to step in and help if a caregiver needs to see a doctor or something official like that, but sometimes they also just need a little time to themselves. Thank you for writing this.

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