A Piece On The Side

Dating married men, guys with serious girlfriends – I’ve been the piece on the side more than a few times over the years and ended up in a series of side relationships (and a long-lasting love triangle/ rectangle thing) that eventually led me to marry my husband, and then starting Read more

“Did You Drop a Pound?”: Why I Won’t Be a Silent Feminist

“You look thin. Did you drop a pound?” It felt like a Jeopardy category: Dumbass Statements for 800. The answer: “What is something you should never say to a woman.” Let’s go again, Alex. At first, I didn’t say anything. I continued wiping down my exercise mat while Dave adjusted Read more

On Letting Oneself Be Taken Care Of

As the eldest in a large family, I grew up taking care of others. Watching my younger siblings, I learned to develop a sixth sense; I reserved a part of my attention to wander on that periphery where something might flare up among any one of them, at any time. Read more

Hey Woman

I admit it. I sometimes feel uncomfortable being a woman. I’m not as deeply in touch with my femininity as I should be. I have not defined myself within my femininity. Haven’t owned that energy. I’m not saying that I’m masculine or that I identify easier with my masculine side, Read more

Cell Phone and Wedding Ring

always present reminder connection incomplete without it cell phone wedding ring i am taken iphone everyone identity icon portal to everywhere newest version largest sparkle i am worth it afforded pleasure african blood coltan and diamond conflict minerals childhood labor silent statement world encircled memories texted inscribed love Photo Credit: Read more