Dating + Relationships

Crazy Stupid Love

My last real boyfriend was named Jave, and we were together from 2000 to 2002. By “real” I mean, he didn’t exist solely as a product...

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Sex Etiquette 101: A field guide for lovers

This entry is part 5 of 15 in the series: Mind Your Manners with Nathalie Findlay Try as I might, I haven’t found a way to create a...

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Dear Sir

Originally published on Jan 25, 2016 “There was a flower in her heart, it just needed more room to bloom, and when she let it free,...

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There is a Hooker in All of Us. Isn’t there?

Originally published October 14, 2015 When I was small, I used to tell my mother, “When I grow up I’m moving to...

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Marriage

I sit alone in my bedroom you sit alone on the couch. You go to work I stay home. You never call. I never text. Our wedding portrait is on...

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Aggressi-Kissing 101

I have a love-hate relationship with the movies, especially romantic comedies. When I was a teenager, the passion-power of chick flicks...

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My Insane Relationship with a Rapist

Originally Published September 9, 2015 Ashamed to admit it, yet it is the truth, I slept with my rapist several times after he raped me on...

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A Lovely Conversation Amongst Strangers

Redemption was in order, but his sins outweighed her ability to forgive. Two friends, turned strangers, once lovers, now hardly knew each...

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All I have

It was the first time you didn’t fall for my smile, the one you realized wasn’t real. You took me home and tugged me in, You kissed...

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Five Year Gap

Five-year gap It could have been ten, I was so young then Just sixteen, you were just ‘old’ Policing my youth, like you always knew...

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Splintered

until you splintered under my skin, and the blood rushed to fight infection,

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Free Bird

He had already locked the front door so she couldn’t escape, couldn’t open her cage. Perhaps he uttered a prayer to whomever murderers...

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West Of The Deuce

The town was Show Low named for a poker hand way up in the White Mountains of wild western Arizona how very ironic we met in a poker...

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Apathy

Turning in on itself, turning out reflecting images of men, transforming into disgust.

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Rocks and Cameras

Then, in a wine soaked haze, I realize what the worst part about this is.We are always on guard against the men in the streets. The ones...

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Sent: Spewing Bullshit With Doublespeak

So you could say I know for sure. There has definitely never been a time like this. I’ve been all over every form of physically and...

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The Wonders of You

for my part I don't deserve you but yet you believed in me before I believed in myself and on one trembling knee I am humbled by your...

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Forever In Neverland

I am sorry. I am sorry that you held on to faith, I am not a believer, I have no allegiance other than the one forged by pain, with...

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“Captain, My Captain”

Next time don’t lie When you sit close and sigh You’re married already So forget going steady

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Day 225: Sequoia Sempervirens

As I stand at the base of “The Giant,” a near three-hundred footer, I can think of nothing but our girls. How they swam to us against...

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Shutting Down Because My Lover Shut Me Out

Sometimes I don’t want to deal with my life. It hurts too much. He doesn’t see me. I don’t want to talk about it. I don’t want to...

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stalking

Hello, I have thought about the note you gave me on Monday. I do not want you to contact me again. I do not want any phone calls or notes....

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Online Dating Insider: Single Mom Seeking Romance

The world of dating it always seemed too complicated for me. How do you keep things casual when it’s time to move things forward? In my...

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Les Enfants Terribles

It is a true story my narrative of this grand prix night in 2017. I went out for dinner and drinks on Bernard street in Outremont. It was a...

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What I Fear The Most

what I fear the most is not this spinning inexorable world perpetually casting shadows and monsters or even my own inevitable fleshy demise...

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Daddy Issues

I’ve heard the term many times in my life. I’ve even used it a couple of hundred times or so. I have understood this stereotype to...

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