It has been 13 years since my Father died. His birthday fell on the same weekend as Father’s Day.
I try to avoid everything Hallmark about this weekend because I still miss my father so deeply. We were always close and shared a symbiotic bond he never had with my brothers. We laughed at ridiculous things in life, usually my mother, and unfortunately shared the genetic bond of depression.
He was the one person who understood and accepted my dark.
He was a quiet man, but from him I learned some invaluable life lessons.
16 Things My Father Never Said:
1. Always be friends with the people who have no friends.
2. Make sure you have a place where you feel safe. It could be your home or the Nordstrom shoe department. Just have one.
3. So many things will frighten you. Storms, I know you are ridiculously afraid of moths, and strangers, but your biggest fear is having people see you as you see you.
4. You are so much more mighty than you know.
5. Change will be your only constant. You’re different than you were yesterday, and will be a different person tomorrow. This is a good thing. Especially if you didn’t want to be that person from yesterday.
6. You can be very cruel with your words and actions. This is something to kill with kindness.
7. If you feel like it, stay in your pajamas all day and don’t open the curtains.
8. Tell your real friends how you feel. Tell them at 2:00 AM or noon. But always tell them.
9. Loneliness does not have anything to do with the number of people around you. It’s about love. And how many of those people understand you.
10. Sometimes the most surprising actions will break your heart.
11. You can love someone and hate someone. At the same time.
12. You are going to be very good at many things. Making people laugh, being a good friend, and whatever career path you choose.
13. People come and go. Some are cigarette breaks, others are forest fires.
14. You won’t like your name until you hear someone say it with I love you.
15. Everything is going to be alright.
16. You are going to be alright.