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- Giving the Gift of “No”
- I Blinked and Became One of Them!
- Lawd, Have Mercy, the Kids are Divorcing
- Are You Too Busy to Visit a Friend?
- What We Can Learn from those Aggravating Ants
- If You Don’t Have One, Go Out and Get One!
- Betrayal, Unforgiveness and You
- “You… Sooo SKINNY!”
- Racism: The Conversation that is No Longer Optional
- The Lost Art of Oral History
- Where Did All My Money Go?
- Getting Back Into the Dating Game
- Parenting Adult Children. Not.
- Asking for HELP
- The Legacy of the Recipe
- A Gift for Your Family
- The Benefits of Traveling with Your Grandchildren
- Finding the Right Travel Partner
This is not meant to be a downer, but it needs to be discussed again.
Recently, I lost a couple of long term friends.
One died suddenly of a heart attack and one after a long valiant fight with cancer.
The deaths were entirely different, and both individuals had prepared differently.
My friend, Cheryl, just died and didn’t show up for work. Her family had to scramble to put things together.
My other friend and a mentor, Don Bailey, knew he was dying and had prepared his entire final arrangements. While battling prostate cancer, he purchased my book; Farewell, My Friend, as his guide to preparing his final arrangements.
Don’s memorial service was classy and well planned. His wife and daughters were composed and serene. They HAD BEEN PREPARED.
The last words from this former Navy aircraft electrician were,
“My prayer is that I have made a positive difference in those lives that I have touched. I have made my final landing; the hanger doors are closed, and I will sleep well knowing that I did my best.”
It was a perfect statement for Don and gave all of us a certain amount of comfort.
Getting ahead of all of this will not cause you to die any sooner than you are going to. Believe it or not, it will give you a certain sense of personal peace.
As I have stated before, here in my column or in one of my many presentations, YOU preparing your final arrangements and making your wishes known is a GIFT that you give to your family.
Now…are you in a giving mood?