Since we do not live in the Land of Nirvana, from time to time, one of our adult children will get a divorce. In a perfect world, all matters will be handled with civility, and we will continue to have nice family dinners during the holidays. THEN YOU WAKE UP!
When the plans that your children make begin to melt away, it is a hard thing to watch and not say something. Quite often you might find yourself caught in the middle of a lot of “Who Shot John?” Take it from me; learn to draw your line in the sand early. Remember, there are always three sides to every story, their two sides and the truth.
If there are grandchildren and usually there are, the matter becomes even more complicated. I often text my older grandson who is swimming in the middle of all this muck and mire and encourage him to focus on his studies and college and to remember that I love him so much. I encourage my two younger ones to remember that they have just one job, to focus on school. I mentioned this once to my seven-year-old grandson and his response that his number one job was to go between his mother and his father’s homes. It was both cute and sad to hear.
It is important that we try to help the children maintain balance during this time. Encourage all involved that the shadows of our life are often caused by us standing in our own sunshine.