The saddest thing about betrayal is that is never comes from your enemies.
This is a powerful statement.
I think that I am a kind, loving and fair person, but I, too, have been fileted on more than one occasion, and it can hurt. Having established that, now what do you do?
You can roll on the ground, have your pity party and end up running in place.
You want to get even. You have those conversations in your head with those people that are never actually delivered in person and for what? Sometimes we have a need to want to “get even” and not let that person get the best of us. However, often that person has simply gone on with their lives, not giving you a second thought.
Few people start out with a goal to hurt someone.
They may be acting out pain that may or may not be associated with your relationship, and you are clueless. They say that not forgiving a person is a lot like drinking poison and hoping that the other person will die. It’s pointless.
Now I am all for holding a grudge and getting mad but put an expiration date on it!
I try to live my life with the motto:
“If today was the last day of my life… (spoiler alert… it might be) …would I hold on to all this anger and keep that perineal knot in my stomach?”
The simple answer is I WILL NOT!
Give yourself a break and like the song in the movie “Frozen” says …LET IT GO!
Beatrice Bailey was born and raised in Davenport, Iowa to a Baptist minister father and a mother who was a gospel recording artist. She has three sisters and one brother. She attended the University of Iowa and graduated with a BA in Psychology from California State University, Sacramento.
Retired since 2004 from management positions with both the Xerox Corporation and the State of California, Bea now conducts customized seminars on “Budgeting for the Not So Rich and Famous”, “Putting the Puzzle Pieces Together…The Ultimate Balancing Act,” as well as interview techniques entitled, “Selling the Sizzle and Not the Steak.” In addition, she is an active member of St. Paul Baptist Church in Sacramento, CA, where she is an Adult Sunday School teacher. Bea has been a Head Feature Writer for Senior Magazine of Northern California. She also writes a monthly newspaper column entitled, “Uniquely Bea”
Currently, she has authored a best-selling book, entitled, "Farewell, My Friend” and is conducting presentations and book signings throughout the United States and Mexico. "Radio Luz,” a Spanish Speaking Christian Radio Station, has interviewed her multiple times. Bea also was selected to be included in a book by The Author’s Show, as one of the "50 Outstanding Writers You Should Be Reading”. Bea has produced and hosted a new innovative television show, “A-Z with Bea”, which aired in November 2009 on RCCTV, Sacramento, CA.
Bea is active at St. Paul Baptist Church and is an Adult Sunday school Teacher, and a Small Accountability Group Leader. She is a member of Kaiser’s Bio-Ethics Committee and on the Board of Advisors for the East Lawn Corporation. Recently, she has been asked to participate as a speaker with the Black Health Today national organization.
To relax, Bea likes to work out at the gym, walk, knit, paint, sew, cook, garden, and read. Traveling within the United States, Mexico, Asia, the Caribbean, South America and Europe is one of Bea’s true passions. She has two adult children, one “bonus son”, five wonderful grandchildren and two great-grandchildren. She resides in Northern California.