I was sitting in Panera, sipping on some amazing tea and thinking about writing another chapter for my latest book, when I overheard the women to my right talking. They were both in their mid-twenties, professionally dressed and very attractive. The one woman was telling the other about her latest breakup and how he said all kinds of horrible things about her. I could tell by how she was talking that she believed them. I listened for a few more minutes while her friend tried to console her. I was just about to get back to my writing when I heard her friend say that she was lacking in several areas too. She told her friend that they just weren’t good enough for the guys they wanted to date.
What? Weren’t good enough? The Mom in me wanted to jump up, run to their table and tell them how amazing they both were – the right man would see that instantly. Who isn’t good enough is the guy who laid all that crap on them in the first place! He’s not good enough. If he were, he would have seen how lucky he was to be with her, not put her down.
That’s when I thought to myself, “When as women did we collectively become the sex that decided we aren’t good enough?”
We are always saying that to ourselves. We aren’t pretty enough, smart enough, strong enough, sexy enough, tall enough, short enough, blonde enough, talented enough … The list goes on and on. And we let ourselves believe it!
I am here to tell you … YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH … just the way you are.
You don’t need to change. You don’t need to lose 30 pounds. You don’t need to work harder, be smarter, or stand taller. All you have to be … is you. You are good enough.
We don’t get it.
We cut ourselves down every day, every chance we get. We are our own worst enemies. Think about what has gone through your head just today. I bet you have grumbled at your appearance at least once. Did you question your decisions today? Maybe you even told yourself you’re dumb today. Let me ask you this: If a friend did or said those things to you, would you still be friends with them? Of course not. Why do you allow yourself to be the biggest bully that exists … to yourself?
Stop! Stop right now.
Rewrite those messages that go through your head every day. Tell yourself you are good enough. You are … you really are. You don’t need to change. You don’t need to do anything except be the person who you were intended to be. Let people love you and see you for who you are … not for what you need to change or who you need to become.
“You’re so mean when you talk to yourself; you are wrong. Change the voices in your head. Make them like you instead!” ~”Fuckin’ Perfect” – by Pink
You need to accept that the person staring back at you in the mirror is amazing.
You are talented, strong, loving, caring, smart, and beautiful. You are all these things and more. Everyone sees it; you just have been listening to the wrong voice in your head, letting it determine your worth. It’s time to rewrite that voice.
You have the power to quiet that voice. Tell it to let you hear only the good things that make you unique and amazing. Each time a negative thought crosses your mind, cancel it, erase it … Tell it no more. Replace that thought with a positive one. Put post-it notes on your mirrors with positive affirmations, and repeat those affirmations to yourself daily. Believe it and let the negative thoughts find a home in someone else’s head. You don’t need them anymore.
So now that you know you’re good enough, what are you waiting for? What’s stopping you from doing what you want? What’s keeping you from meeting your soul mate? From getting your dream job? Or finding the peace of mind that you need?
You know what’s stopping you … absolutely nothing. Go out there and dream big, win big, love big and enjoy the life you have. You are good enough for everything you want to be and do. You deserve it; you are enough.
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