- He Just Came Out to Me, Now What?
- Giving the Gift of “No”
- I Blinked and Became One of Them!
- Lawd, Have Mercy, the Kids are Divorcing
- Are You Too Busy to Visit a Friend?
- What We Can Learn from those Aggravating Ants
- If You Don’t Have One, Go Out and Get One!
- Betrayal, Unforgiveness and You
- “You… Sooo SKINNY!”
- Racism: The Conversation that is No Longer Optional
- The Lost Art of Oral History
- Where Did All My Money Go?
- Getting Back Into the Dating Game
- Parenting Adult Children. Not.
OK…you now find yourself a 50+ widow/widower with a bit of living left to do.
You enjoy your time with family and friends. Your days are full with trips to the gym, taking a Tai Chi class, knitting or tutoring grandchildren. Yet, something was missing.
Ah, yes…companionship was what was missing for me. “No”, I did not need a man to build my life around, but I knew that I wanted a man in the building of my new life.
Where the devil do you start? There ain’t a “Safe Man/Woman for the New Widow/Widower Store!”
My suggestion is that you start with yourself.
You have to make sure that you are “whole” before you attempt to become “part” of someone else. Examine your motives for starting a relationship.
Do you want one because you are lonely? If so, if that person doesn’t work out, you will just find yourself lonely again.
Firmly decide on your wants vs your needs in a relationship and try not to compromise. You may have to tweak what you want in an ideal partner, but there may be some deal breakers.
Financial and health concerns are key considerations in evaluating a new relationship. At this point in our lives, we shouldn’t knowingly take on a lot of weight in a new relationship.
Take your time and form a friendship. A strong friendship will outlast any romantic relationship. If you find out along the way that you are in love with a friend, it is a win-win relationship for everyone.