Are you settling for Mr. Right-Now?

We, as women, have come a long way. We have fought for our right to vote and for equality in the work place. We work hard each day and have good-paying jobs.

So why exactly are so many women settling when it comes to relationships?

I see it and hear it all around me: Women talking about the men they’re with, and not like they’re a good thing, more like …“at least it’s someone.”

Questions to consider asking yourself:

When did we come to believe that a warm body is better than no-body? Why would you want to be with someone who you don’t really care about, just to be with someone? You have so much going on; time is so valuable.  Why are you wasting it on someone who isn’t making your toes curl?!

Okay… here’s the deal. If you are in a relationship with a man and you are just there because you would rather not be alone … then dump him. I’m serious, call him right now and say it’s over. You don’t need to be in a relationship just so you’re in a relationship. Time is precious, and that time you’re wasting on a guy that isn’t cutting it, is keeping you away from the one that you are meant to be with. The person you’re dating might be wonderful; he might be successful, kind and hot … but just doesn’t do it for you. You feel like there’s something missing, but you can’t put your finger on what it is. It certainly doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy. It just means he’s not your guy, and that’s okay. So cut him loose and go find your Mr. Right.

It’s 2015, you’re an amazing woman. It’s okay to be on your own. It’s okay to make your own decisions. It’s okay to take care of yourself and your family. It is not okay to settle for a man that you don’t love just so you are dating someone. Not only are you screwing yourself over, you’re screwing him over too. He deserves the love of a lifetime. If you’re not it … then move along. You deserve shooting stars, fireworks, and tingles from just the thought of him. If you want all these things, then why in the world are you settling? He’s out there right now looking for you. It’s just that you’ve settled. You’ve decided that you don’t care enough to continue looking for him.

Have you really decided that you’re happy being in a mediocre relationship? Is that really what you want? Mediocre? Is that all you’re worth? Well, I’m here to tell you that you are worth so much more than that. Your life is precious. You deserve that amazing first kiss that never ends, the excitement that fills you just from thinking of your man, and that thrill of passion that will last a lifetime with your Mr. Right. You can’t get that if you’re just going to settle for Mr. Right-Now.

You are an amazing, strong woman that deserves it all. Don’t let yourself settle for something when the real thing is waiting for you. It’s important to remember that each break up brings you one step closer to the one you’re supposed to be with. I am not saying if you’re happy to keep looking over your shoulder for the next best thing—that’s not it at all. You’ll know you’ve found Mr. Right when you’ve got him. Seriously, it’ll be so different than any other relationship you’ve ever been in. When I met my husband for the first time, it was like my soul recognized him and thought, “Oh there you are.” I had been in many relationships, I even thought I was madly in a love a few times. But when I met my Mr. Right, I realized I had no idea what love really was. From the moment we met, he flipped my world upside down and it’s been a hell of a ride ever since. His is the first face I see every morning, and the last thing I see at night. I miss him when we’re apart, and I can’t wait to be back in his arms. That whole newlywed period that they say end—I’m here to tell you it doesn’t. I love him more now than ever, and we’ve been together twenty years. Plus, we’re not the only couple like that. There are millions of others out there that found their Mr. Right and feel the same way. You can be one of them too …you just have to stop settling right now!

You deserve everything this life has to offer, true love tops that list. So why are you settling? Look around your life. Ask yourself … Are you happy with your relationship? Is he your Mr. Right or is he your Mr. Right-Now. If the latter is the answer, do both of you a favor and move on. Your Mr. Right is waiting ,.. go ahead, be strong enough to not settle … you deserve it!

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SA Smith

SA Smith has always loved the magical life. She is the bestselling Amazon author of FOREVER, her four part young adult paranormal romance series. She is an advocate for women of all shapes and sizes. Believing that we are all enough just as we are, and needing to spread that word far and wide. Having been diagnosed with CRPS over 12 years ago, SA also uses her writing to increase social awareness of the disease. Writing is her passion. She often tells friends that writing is a journey for her. It’s like spending time with friends. "I just follow my characters along on their adventures, like a fly on the wall, and see where they take me." SA currently lives in Florida with her best friend/husband and their one son.

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    I had an A+ (including good arguing skills) with my husband of 40 years. I loved those shooting stars. I’ve been on my own since his death 8 years ago and haven’t looked for a new partner. I’ve met a few interested men, but no one who interested me. I’d never lived alone in 62 years. Now’s my time to spend time with women friends and family and befriend solitude.

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    Excellent article. It’s not fair to either person when someone in the relationship is settling. both parties deserve nothing but the best..

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