- He Just Came Out to Me, Now What?
- Giving the Gift of “No”
- I Blinked and Became One of Them!
- Lawd, Have Mercy, the Kids are Divorcing
- Are You Too Busy to Visit a Friend?
- What We Can Learn from those Aggravating Ants
- If You Don’t Have One, Go Out and Get One!
- Betrayal, Unforgiveness and You
- “You… Sooo SKINNY!”
- Racism: The Conversation that is No Longer Optional
- The Lost Art of Oral History
- Where Did All My Money Go?
- Getting Back Into the Dating Game
- Parenting Adult Children. Not.
I do a personal assessment at the end of every year regarding things that I like and don’t like about my life and myself. I look at what is increasing my growth and what are the hindrances to my growth. I then set up a plan to make some necessary changes. At the end of last year, I decided that the art of giving would not end in December.
One of my main hindrances is an inability to say “NO” when I know I need to say “NO.” Anyone that knows me knows that I am a high energy, very organized person and a Jill of All Trades.
“Give it to Bea and regardless of her schedule, she will find a way to get it done.”
Well … there is a price to pay when you consciously or unconsciously are sucked into this head set.
You may find yourself stressed and putting key areas in your own life on the back burner. The net result is that you may actually accomplish all that you have been “asked to do” or frankly, “roped” into doing. However, you may also end up very stressed or doing some things in a substandard way. There are many skilled “Guilt Merchants” in our individual lives. They will continually push you into taking on a task with the goal of ultimately lightening their own loads.
By concentrating on the critical, few things that you really NEED to do and SHOULD do; you will find yourself living a less complicated and less stressful life.
Consider joining me by giving the “Gift of No” to your family, friends and business associates.
After all, “NO” is a complete sentence.