- He Just Came Out to Me, Now What?
- Giving the Gift of “No”
- I Blinked and Became One of Them!
- Lawd, Have Mercy, the Kids are Divorcing
- Are You Too Busy to Visit a Friend?
- What We Can Learn from those Aggravating Ants
- If You Don’t Have One, Go Out and Get One!
- Betrayal, Unforgiveness and You
- “You… Sooo SKINNY!”
- Racism: The Conversation that is No Longer Optional
- The Lost Art of Oral History
- Where Did All My Money Go?
- Getting Back Into the Dating Game
- Parenting Adult Children. Not.
OK…this is one of my pet peeves and I will take a moment to sound off about it.
In this weight conscious exterior directed society that we live in, weight is often the topic of conversation. However, people don’t realize that comments about weight can swing both ways.
There is no one in their right mind who would walk up to a man, woman or child, look them up and down and say…
”Boy have you put on a lot of weight!”
Hands down, we all know that this is inappropriate and wouldn’t, if we had a brain in our heads say this.
However, I have personally found people who have no hesitation to go up to a person who is thin and say,
“Boy are you skinny!”
How on earth can they think that this is not offensive?
After my knee surgery, due to the surgery and the medications that I was taking, I lost 13 pounds.
That might not seem like a lot of weight, but on my smallest frame…it is a lot.
I can’t count the number of times that “friends” and associates have come up to me here lately and say how thin I look.
When I explain my situation, I am told that I am so lucky that I have lost all this weight and if I needed some pounds that I could borrow some of theirs…ha ha ha!
Apparently, they had recently had an extra dose of insensitivity cuz I didn’t find any of that either supportive or a tad bit funny.
Having said this, I now feel a tad bit better.